Why Did He Move In So Fast?
Maybe it started with a toothbrush, then a bag, then he was simply living there. If he moved in
so fast you never really decided it, here’s what that can mean and the questions worth asking
yourself.
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Staying With a Friend After Leaving: Does Sofa Surfing Affect Your Housing Help?
If you’ve left an abusive home and you’re staying on a friend’s sofa, you might worry the council will say you’re not homeless. We asked a council homelessness officer, and the answer was clear. Here’s what the law says, and what it means for you.
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Why Does Doing the Right Thing Feel So Wrong? Looking After Yourself Through Court
You applied for the order and told the truth. So why do you feel like the one who has done something terrible? This is why the right thing can feel wrong, how to look after yourself through court, and why you should stay involved in your own case.
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The Domestic Violence Disclosure Scheme (Clare’s Law): How to Ask About His Past
Something about him does not add up. In England and Wales you do not have to guess. The Domestic Violence Disclosure Scheme, known as Clare’s Law, lets you ask the police whether he has a history of abuse.
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What Is an Undertaking, and Is It the Same as a Non-Molestation Order
You applied for a non-molestation order, and he has retaliated by applying for one against you. Now you may be asked whether you would both give an undertaking instead. It is not the same as an order. This is what the legislation says about the difference, and about legal aid.
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What Is Biderman’s Chart of Coercion, and Why Does It Look Like My Relationship
He decides who you see, keeps you exhausted, and is kind just often enough to keep you hoping. That pattern was mapped in 1957, in prisoners of war. It is called Biderman’s Chart of Coercion, and these are its eight methods.
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How Do I Know If I’m Being Gaslit
If you’re keeping a mental record of what was actually said, just in case, this is for you. Here’s how to recognise gaslighting, and what the law already calls it.
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Why does verbal abuse feel like it doesn’t count
If you’ve never been hit, it can feel like what’s happening doesn’t count as abuse. Here’s why that belief exists, and why the law disagrees with it.
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The system | Law | Police | Reporting Abuse
A Dedicated Liaison Officer Is Not the Same as a Voice in the Courtroom
A liaison officer helps a woman understand what’s happening to her case. Our proposed courtroom assessor helps the court understand what’s happening to her. Here’s the difference, and why it matters.
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Female Genital Mutilation: How Do I Know If FGM Happened to Me
If it happened when you were very young, not remembering doesn’t mean it didn’t happen. Here’s how to find out what your body is telling you, gently and on your own terms.
